How to Wrangle Mom Guilt

Mom Guilt

On Me: Off The Shoulder Dress // Gucci Belt // Similar Black and Brown High Boots  On Eddie: Moto Jacket // Distressed Olive Tee // Black Slim Fit Jeans // Gucci Embossed Loafers //  On Twins: Cardigan and Rompers by Little Bipsy // Vans Shoes

Whether you are a working or stay-at-home mother, the Mom guilt struggle bus is oh-so-real and often a daily struggle for us ladies {I can feel you nodding your heads in agreement}. I’m not going to sit here and lie to you that I’ve found some magical way to mitigate it, but I will share a few tips on how I manage it and -to be honest – tactfully suppress it.

mom and son
Guilt When Working. My job requires me to travel at times.  Every time I leave my family – even for a day – I cry because I hate being away. I always default to something my Dad always said to me when I would ask him how he’d manage his business as a CEO. He would also be there to tuck me in every night and never missed an event – ever. I live by this advice, “give 100% to work while at work and 100% at home while at home.” Okay so what the F does that mean in practicality? It means that unless it’s an emergency, I’m not doing work emails when I’m around the twins. I’m not on my phone {unless it’s to be the boys paparazzi or catch something funny on IG stories}. I’m living in the moment.
mom guilt
Guilt When Taking Time For Yourself. I was recently having this conversation with a friend who asked me how I make the time for myself without feeling guilty. I try to avoid taking time that I could have with the boys to give myself 45 minutes a day. However, sometimes that’s not an option and it happens. Here’s the thing, no one ever says “damn I wish I didn’t do that workout today”. Or “I really shouldn’t have treated myself to that facial”. Literally never said ever. However, you will be extra pissed if you didn’t get 10 minutes for a shower. Right? You’ll be a better mom and wife as a result.
a baby
Guilt When Forgetting. This is making me cringe while I type it, but I felt like the ultimate POS parent when Eddie called me. It was to tell me that one of the boys needed to borrow a pair of pants because we forgot to bring an extra set to daycare. At first we both freaked out feeling like totally negligent parents, because we slipped. I’m not condoning forgetfulness, but we are juggling a lot right now.  As parents we all need checks-and-balances.  But ultimately it is okay to give yourself a pass from time to time.
a hug
Cancel Out The Guilt. Okay so you took your 45 minutes to yourself today.   Or you feel guilty that you had to work instead of be with your kids. Now what? I like to cancel out the guilt and here’s how. I spend a few moments every week to find some fun experiences in the local area, so that time together is quality time and memorable. Yes, this requires about 10 minutes for me to get it together.  But it’s worth it when we have something to look forward.  It also makes wrangling toddlers a hell of a whole lot more pleasant. Perhaps going out isn’t an option? No problem, my point is to make your time count. That’s what your kids will remember and the memories that they will keep closest to their hearts.
What do you do to help suppress the mom guilt?
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xo

2 Comments

  1. Thania
    December 5, 2018 / 1:49 pm

    Enjoy reading your blogs Persephone. Keep up the good work!

    • admin
      Author
      December 12, 2018 / 6:37 pm

      Thank you Thania for your constant love and support!


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