5 Ways To Handle Mom Guilt

Do any of these feelings of Mom guilt resonate with you?

Feeling Guilt AF

• If I stop breastfeeding, I will feel like I can’t feed my baby
• Anytime I go to work and have to leave my baby at daycare/home/not with me it tears up my heart as I’m trying to strike a balance
• What if I end up fucking up my child’s future ?
• When I leave my kids to do something for myself
• Is my kid feeling special enough? Loved Enough?
• Have I made the right decisions for my kid’s education?
• Are they developing well socially and emotionally?
• Am I saving enough for college?
• Do my kids feel abandoned when I take them to daycare?
• I miss my job and going to work. I miss being highly respected in a professional setting
• Am I living up to what I’m seeing the other Moms do on instagram?

Protecting and loving our babies is innate the moment we give birth – right?

But the same can be said about the tremendous weights Moms through onto their minds and shoulders of guilt every minutes of everyday. So no it’s not the first time I’ve talked about Mom Guilt, but what I’m really struggling with is why we make ourselves get all up in our feels when we are having an off-day or not entirely certain about a decision we’ve made? I wanted to dig deeper at what helps calm my Mom Guilt crazies and how it can help you too.

Before I jump into that, I wanted to share what my Mom Guilt is. I get caught in my #mommyissues and many times when I raise my voice harshly to one of the twins {always for a warranted reason }, later I will feel badly about whether I possess the same devil seed traits that run through my DNA. Will I turn into her {my mother}? Don’t know what I mean, read more about my motherless post here. So that’s me. Okay back to how I can help you.

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How to Handle Mom Guilt

Unfollow those who don’t spark joy

I just Marie Kondo-ed you. If you feel any sort of negative feels towards someone whether it’s envy or frustration, U N F O L L O W. Stop looking at their stories. Sift hard and follow those who exude authenticity in whatever realm they are in.

Remove the Negative Triggers

This is my 2019 motto. Cut anyone out who doesn’t add value to your life or makes you feel good. Sometimes that’s the one Mom who is your ‘friend’ but makes you feel lesser-than. Other times it’s family. Whomever it is, it’s never worth sacrificing your own emotions – especially as it pertains to parenting – in the name of friend-abuse.

Keep the Inner Circle Tight and Shut Out The Noise

I try to only rely on parenting advice from one or two friends, where values and parenting styles are aligned. There is so much unsolicited advice that clouts your ability to listen to that gut feeling and that gut feeling is almost always dead-on. Those are the same intrinsic feelings that we have that know despite feeling sad or confused, you’ve made the right decision for your child.

Get a Pulse Check From Your Spouse

Are your concerns valid or is this something you’ve concocted in your head? I find that my husband Eddie gives me an extra gut-check on whether my guilt should be put away in a nice, neat box or if its warranted.

Be Present With Your Kid Time

Especially for working mamas, we are constantly chasing and yearning for time, but the truth is that no matter how much time or how little time you have, it’s important to make it quality. Are you on the phone the entire time? Could you be out doing something together to make the kid feel special? I have to work to help give the boys their quality of life, but when I am with them, I’m all in mentally, physically and emotionally.

What are your mom guilt repression tips? Share them with me!

Till next time,

P

xo