8 years married! How does it go so fast? Every year on our anniversary, Eddie and I say the vows we wrote in 2012 to one another. Every year we both s o b, because each word is amplified with over a decade of love, happiness, obsession, pain, challenge, but overwhelming joy. This time, while looking into each other’s eyes and around at my Laurent and Roman, who we have brought into this world, it just felt different and even better. My parents stood by us just as they had on that day – prideful and confident in our love. PS Read till the end to see an epic teaser of our day!
Why You Should Renew Your Vows
Why do a vow renewal? Because it resets your commitment to one another. It helps that spark stay lit and bright! It’s another year of commitment. This past year has been really fucking hard, but also really beautiful. Being married to someone with a concussion is the hardest thing we’ve ever endured. Right as I started to turn a corner, quarantine happened. It’s been a lot {and of course lots of joys!}
Eddie deserves a damn medal. The reality is that being concussed is beyond not being yourself. For me it meant an inability to properly communicate my emotions. Extreme anger, extreme sadness – not cute for several months right? More on that here. After COVID and we found the ability to laugh and moments of extreme happiness, I just wanted to do something special for him.
So here’s what I did.
If you’ve been following along, I have been throwing the kids little microparties each week. For this particular week, I said I was inspired by the P. Diddy white party… he didn’t question me. Then I told him, okay let’s make it into a shoot, invite my parents, make it a beautiful thing. Again, I have had crazier ideas – not a single question about it.
I called my friends at Abby Jiu – Abby, Lisa and Meg to see if they would be game for a surprise wedding vow renewal and they said OMG YES. Score! Lisa convinced Alex of Clayton Films to shoot the epic video and I could’ve cried. When Eddie and I were getting married, we had video save-the-dates, something that was completely unchartered territory at that time. We sent them out on CDs you guys. I cannot. Anyways, our wedding video is still one of my most cherished possessions, so I’m so happy to have these moments captured in present day. Lastly, I called my incredible friend Heather of Eden Luxe Bridal, who styled my look and sent the most insane tiara that I’ve ever seen. We had our wedding cake remade by Fluffy Thoughts so it looked and tasted exactly the same!
Of course, we will do something amazing at year 10, but Eddie is an amazing husband – like superhero level.
He gives me that look in his eyes that I remember seeing 11 years ago when we started dating STILL today. And I feel the same too. He deserved to feel magical. And he deserved to feel e x t r a loved. He deserved to feel special and it totally did. He was shocked! This will be one of the moments in our lives that we hold closest to our hearts and when we think about our time during quarantine it is this magical moment that we shared with our family that punctuates it.
For our marriage, it lifted the veil of routine that has been sunken in by quarantine. Of course we’ve adapted. Of course there will still be heavy or hard stressful days, but it’s made our marriage feel all shiny and refreshed. It made us grow closer – somehow – in a way that I didn’t know was possible.
Renewing your vows doesn’t have to be a production.
It can be just in your home, on the couch, to one another as we have done for so many subsequent years.
Would you renew your vows? Tell me down below!
Till next time,
Persephone
xo