2020 baby! New Year, New – kinda – Mom Woes. If you haven’t kept up with the Sh*t No One Wants to Admit Series – well here you go. Being a Mom is f-ing awesome, but there are so many parts of it that no one talks about and I don’t get it. The truth is with anything it can be beautiful and not beautiful at the same time and that’s okay! As the twins get older, I’ve learned more about myself, them and being parents to them that I have to share with you. Before you keep reading, you have to take your judgment and throw it out the window. This is a safe space, okay? Let’s go!
Sh*t No One Wants To Admit About Being A Mom
Sometimes You Won’t Like Them, But You Still Love Them
This doesn’t make you f-ed up. This makes you human. Ever have a friend you love so much, but they drive you crazy? Samesies x 3523095 with kids. I love them so much, but man oh man when they do this certain {fake cry, say NO, stomp their feet, etc} it makes me feel like I’m going to loose my damn mind and that’s cool. Walk away. Tap out! I’ve shared this before, but it’s worth repeating. It’s okay to tap out and walk away.
Sometimes You Won’t Like The Version Of You They Bring Out
Ever found yourself yell in a way that makes you stop and feel some remorse for your own parents? Ugh just writing this is making me cringe, but happens and it’s ugly and it’s true. I love how the twins bring out this mooshy, gushy, lovey Mama out of me. They’ve healed me from my own issues with my Mother. At the same time, when they get cray, sometimes I can get cray too and it’s not cute. When I’ve shared that I hate how I respond sometimes to the twins with my Dad, he always tells me to handle my own emotions with grace. That we are all human. We have good days and we have ugly ones, so that advice I will share with you.
Sometimes They Are Looney Tunes Crazy
If we’ve been friends for a while, we recently went to LA for about two weeks and it was a sh*tshow of epic proportions. I’m healing from my concussion, the kids have ear infections, one gets pneumonia. Literally so crazy you can’t make this up. Anytime kids get sick, the situation is bound to get a little hairy, but as adults, as parents, we often try to lead with logic. “What could be causing this outburst?” “Why is he so upset about his monkey that he’s holding in his hand?” “Why is he screaming bloody murder about the crayon?” – you get it. Sometimes we have to throw out logic, because it’s illogical. We just have to live in their moods and that’s okay.
Sometimes You MUST Walk Away
There was a night that I was sleeping with one of our son’s {again in LA} that he woke up screaming, kicking, crying, and I tried EVERY single trick in the book to get him to stop – but I couldn’t. I found myself getting furious and frustrated, so I quite literally said ‘Mama is going to take a moment’ and did exactly that. Sometimes this is the only way to preserve our sanity and to give us the opportunity to refresh, reset and try again a little harder.
I share these experiences with you, because there is solidarity in knowing you aren’t alone or crazy. What are your Mom secrets you can dish with me?
Till next time
xo
P